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Ginger Cook (GC)'s avatar

This is GOLD. I have also shared sexual trauma, and it was turned around on me. It hurts, and in that case it ruined my life for a long time.

It also made me a damn clam, unable to share anything, until I came to substack - the only place in the world where I am openly bisexual.

Fantastic writing and advice! Glad to have found youuuuu!

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π„ππ πšπ«π 𝐏𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐞π₯𝐚's avatar

oh Ginger. i am so sad and mad for you that you have also experienced that as well. thanks for sharing your experience because this still fucking shakes me! like… one of my most vulnerable moments, a trauma, weaponized. it’s the worst. i never handle it well. i feel you on being a clam!!! happy to have found you too, thank you!!!! πŸ₯Ήβ˜ΊοΈπŸ˜πŸ₯°

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Ginger Cook (GC)'s avatar

πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜

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Mi gente!!! πŸ‘πŸ»

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π„ππ πšπ«π 𝐏𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐞π₯𝐚's avatar

hey!!!! πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ here we are!!! :) thanks for checking my blog out, Ginger ❀️πŸ₯°

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oh my god the chameleon thing is so real!!! my coworkers that actually have the privilege of KNOWINGℒ️ me have named my β€œstraight” alter ego at the office β€œsusan” πŸ™ˆπŸ€­πŸ˜ΉπŸ’€ also i love all of this! i’m very selective about who i feel comfy telling about the reason i’m no contact with certain family bc it’s been used against me by bone collectors in the past. i feel u on the adhd urge to overshare and connect, and working to find the balance somewhere in between the public library and the vault.

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π„ππ πšπ«π 𝐏𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐞π₯𝐚's avatar

BAHAHAHA, "Knowing" with a trademark. That part. I really feel you on the existence of Susan, because working in construction, the shit these people would say to me all the time. I'm glad that I was able to pass for the most part, but sometimes one of them would get mouthy with me and gay-vestigate me. It was fucking uncomfortable. And this is all without mentioning the other bone collectors - the co-worker that watches tour every move to have dirt on you, etc etc. People are out here trying to fuck us up! And here I am, oversharing like I didn't learn my lesson. It's a tough balance to achieve.

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